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Corky and Ginny Went Home

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Ginny and Corky Nov.29, 2017 sleeping in the living room.

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Our first corgis, Merrymont Impression-Corky and Merrymont Virginia’s Beauty-Ginny went home to heaven on November 30, 2017. They were Emily’s boy and girl. Growing up together and now going home together, they lived long lives. Corky was 16 years in August and Ginny would have been 16 this coming March 2018.

Corky’s father was a Best of Breed in Va. and Ginny’s father was a Canadian Champion. We got Corky first from Emily’s second litter and the following year, Ginny came. Later, in Nov., Emily came when the breeder became ill.

Ginny was to be Corky’s companion as he barked a lot when we were working in the gardens. She did stop him from doing that but they acted like brothers and sisters in the human world most of the time. She had the thickest and most beautiful coat. Ginny became Daddy’s Princess. She was the best one to groom, do her ears, and teeth until the last year.

Corky loved us both, too, but idolized his Daddy. He followed him around everywhere. When you have furkids this long, their lives entwine yours in everything. As Glenn said last night, he sees Corky and Ginny everywhere. Then not to have a pack but only one, is tough. It’s now ‘the empty nest’ feeling.

Velvet came in August 2014 just 3 weeks after Emily went home. Corky was going through grief still and he became friends with Velvet. They loved each other very much. At night, they’d both be in the living room with Glenn. If she left the room, he would wake up and look for her. Velvet liked to sniff his back and there would be these little tuffs sticking up along Corky’s back. He would come next to Velvet and plop his yard-long frame on her front feet or next to her.

Velvet and Corky looked out the door all the time together. He even let her eat from his bowl and didn’t growl. If that was Ginny, there would be a fight. Ginny and Corky didn’t fight much, though, just growl and bare their teeth if one got in the other’s face.

Last week, Ginny and Corky kissed each other on the muzzle. That was warm to see now after they’ve mellowed. Glenn wanted them to go home together as they were both about the same condition health wise. At first, I thought that this would be a double whammy. Then I thought that Glenn is right as we’d have to take the other soon after.

Ginny didn’t really walk much and Corky lost a lot of weight these last 6 weeks. Ginny started skipping food recently and Corky started getting weaker a few days before he went home. We knew it was time. It will take time

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Corky and Velvet-best friends!

for us to recover and Velvet to adjust.

Right now, it’s very, very sad but I know it will get better over time. I think Velvet fully thought that Corky was back home when we went out to eat on Nov. 30. She ran to the back of the house and looked for him. She’s still looking for Corky and not wanting to play with her toys much. Glenn put Corky’s cover from the living room on the sofa for Velvet to smell. She’s good with that.

We are praying for God to give her a best friend again. She’s a very good girl with a lovely temperament. I know Velvet will help mend the 2 holes in our heart because she mended mine when Emily went to heaven.

 

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Corky Begins the Road Home

Emily’s son, Corky, is now 16 ¼ years old! He still walks around much and follows Daddy all over. Yet he’s showing signs of old age this Autumn. He’s been healthy for the most part, until recently when he had a skin infection, perhaps from an allergy to an outdoors thing. He got over this after about 6 weeks of bathing 1-2 times a week.

Our concern now is that for the past 6 weeks he’s been losing weight. The vet gave him Hills Urgent Care canned food which we must mix with other things or he won’t eat it. Corky now eats 3 times a day from a menu that I’ve made up with something different each meal. Most of the time he’ll eat most or all of it.

It isn’t solving the problem, though, and Corky continues to lose weight. He’s lost 5 lbs. in about 6 weeks. Another blood test now reveals that not only is he slightly anemic but that the enzymes are slightly high with one kidney.

The vet said we could do more tests, etc. but we’ve decided that it won’t add to his life appreciably. We just want him to be happy and he only wants to be home with us and Velvet. It’s a matter of time until God calls Corky home to Heaven. Then, he will be with his mother, Emily, running and playing like they used to.

Corky adored his mother and really missed her when she went to Heaven. I know that Velvet will miss Corky, too. We are not watching him waste away but will let Corky tell us when he’s ready to go home.

 

 

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Corky and Velvet-best friends!

 

Emily and Corky, Her Son

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We miss you, Emily!

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Corky and Velvet-best friends!

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Happy Birthday !

Corky was 15 years old on Aug.20th. We celebrated with a party and frozen, vanilla yogurt. Corky, Ginny, and Velvet enjoyed that on a hot day! We are very thankful that we still have Corky with us.

In April 2011, two weeks after my mother passed away, Corky had emergency surgery for a blockage. Then after they sent him home, we had to go right back and he had a second surgery for same area. He wouldn’t eat and I visited him and fed him there in the hospital.

Corky was in for 8 days and I brought up his mother, Emily, on Mother’s Day to bring him home. He was thrilled to see her! Corky was always close to her. He healed up well and we’ve be careful to watch him eat certain things.

A week before Emily passed away on Aug. 27, 2014, we had Corky’s 13th birthday party. Emily had her vanilla yogurt, too, but it was clear that she wouldn’t be with us much longer. When she passed away, Corky was the only one who went to her and said his goodbyes.

He mourned for her for several months, even after Velvet came to us 3 weeks later in Sept. 2014. I would say her name while talking and Corky would look up at me. We could tell that he was still working through his grief.

After Velvet came, it took Corky a while to adjust to her ways. He didn’t quite know what to do at times having been around Ginny. Corky expected Velvet to be like her, I guess, as he was hesitant to play with Velvet. Velvet is unlike Ginny in every way.

Ginny never liked anyone to play and can be snarky, nip Corky, etc. Velvet has a perfect temperament like Emily had. In fact, Velvet calms Corky the same way. She never bites, nips or gets mean to Corky. This took a long time for him to get used to.

Corky adjusted to where he lets her do things that he never let Ginny do. He lets her have the antlers, bones, toys, and even drops things so she gets to have them. Now, after nearly 2 years, they are best friends! For the first time in his life, he is very happy.

The two will lie next to each other and look out the door. Corky goes next to her and lies down, licks her ear or face. It’s really wonderful that he has happiness and peace. Now with the change in his pain medications this summer, he seems to have more strength and energy to play with her and Glenn with the tennis balls. The is no limping like before either.

Perhaps Emily can look down and smile at Corky and Velvet being happy. God sure knew what was best for Corky and us. Having Velvet here has made a great difference. Although we will always miss Emily, we know we’ll see her again in heaven and she’ll get to meet Velvet.

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“Oh Boy! My favorite!” Emily, Aug. 20, 2014

Happy Birthday, Emily!

I still celebrate and remember Emily’s Birthday on May 22nd. She will be forever in my heart and mind. We have her picture throughout our home and think of her always. I asked Glenn once why we loved her so much. He said because she was special. That says it all.

While all the corgis are special, Emily was a very special girl who was calm and calmed the others, too. She eased their fears and they came by her; she calmed their fights and they stopped. Emily would watch and monitor a new rescue here while playing. She wouldn’t interfere unless she thought things were getting rough.

I left her alone and watched her work with amazement. There are a couple of short videos that I made of this once. When she passed away, a huge hole was left here as she was the alpha girl. No one can replace her ever. But God knew who we needed by then and what kind of girl we should have.

We rehomed Eskie and received Velvet the following month. Velvet and Corky are best friends. Velvet doesn’t order Corky around but stays by him, plays a little, and keeps him happy. Emily’s son, Corky, will be 15 in August. At this time of his life, he just needs love and companionship.

God knew that and sent Velvet here. We still feel most blessed that she came and are very thankful. Emily would have loved Velvet but will get to meet her in Heaven.

Emily, I miss you, always and forever.

Love,

Mom

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Emily and Corky would always be together. They never fought. He was the only one to come by her, after she passed away, to say good bye. For months afterwards, I’d say that I missed Emily. Corky would perk up his head and look at me when I said her name.  I’d then tell him that she is in Heaven and we’ll see her again. He was happy with that.

Emily, It’s been a year now…

We still miss Emily as much as when she left us on August 27, 2014; we always will miss her as she was such a great part of our lives. I can’t relive those days and hours in my mind as it’s so very sad. Now it is remembering without the details to make it more bearable.

Yet, there are still times of tears and deep sorrow. Anniversaries are always very sad for my late parents, now for Emily, too. I miss them all so much and wish I could go back in time just for a moment. Looking at Emily’s pictures and videos is easier now as I just think of the moment they were taken and not that she is missing.

I will never “get over” her loss and will hold her in my heart always. Many people never get another dog after losing a dear one or they never get that breed again. That makes things much worse, I think. God gave us Velvet to help us heal and she has. She’s been here 11 months already and we can cope with Emily’s memories better due to her.

We have learned to thank God for his foresight and gifts in Velvet coming here to be with us now and forever. Emily was a most beautiful girl in every way; Velvet is also in her ways very beautiful, too.

When we all meet again in Heaven, we will then have much to tell each other.

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The Gift of Love

Today, April 25th, is our wedding anniversary of 23 years! (It’s also the birthday of my oldest daughter.) We will go out to dinner this weekend and enjoy ourselves…

Today, also, is Glenn’s Gift of Love to Emily-he put her arch up and concrete again at the bottom due to very strong crosswinds in that area. When the brickwork is completed, I will plant Mom’s rose and clematis on one side, and continue fixing the rose garden that I began the other day.

April is both a happy and sad month as Mom passed away April 8, 2011 and Emily’s last photo in the gardens was with Glenn and under the rose arch. We miss then greatly. Now, though, I can walk in that garden and think of them while enjoying God’s flowers. They are in heaven now so we are happy for that.

We are also thankful for 23 years of marriage and looking forward to our 25th! It’s easier now and better than many other times. Glenn continues to give many ‘gifts of love’ to us daily here in taking care of the home and gardens and furkids.

This year we are trying to catch-up and take it easy, too. Dad passed away in July 2007 and it took me 18 months to move on. Then we had construction to 2012, with Mom passing away in 2011. In Oct. 2012 I had a small stroke from all that stress and that took a while to recover. In the summer of 2013, Emily could no longer walk and we got her a cart by Nov. She also almost died from a blockage and a long bought of pneumonia in Feb 2013. Emily passed away in August 2014 and the remainder of the year was filled with grief.

One thing after another and the gardens have not fully been taken care of at times. That is being done this year as much as God will allow us to do. No construction is planned for this year. We plan to just be outside with the furkids, garden, and enjoy ourselves with as little stress as possible.

Emily’s birthday is in May just after Glenn’s. We are hoping for warmer weather and a warm celebration of both of their birthdays.

A Gift of Love given to us by God has increased and multiplied. We pray that it continues for more years to come! Happy Anniversary, Glenn!

Glenn installed Emily's new arch today.

Glenn installed Emily’s new arch today.

Emily’s Garden Arch

We are preparing “Emily’s Garden” Fragrances, Potpourris, Oils, and more Bath and Beauty items. They will be on my website and online store this year. The label looks like this:

The label has Emily walking in her cart and under the Rose arch.

The label has Emily walking in her cart and under the Rose arch.

Emily loved the gardens here and we think of her while walking and working out there. Glenn loved walking her in her cart around the rose and vegetable gardens each day. He took especially good care of her. Even in the snow, he would shovel all the pathways so she could still walk around. It was cute.

I have videos and still pictures of them. One of the photos was taken on Easter in 2014 and under the arch. Glenn loved that one so I have it enlarged and on a canvas photo with 3 others of Emily. I cropped the photo to make the label for Emily’s Garden products. The labels are oil and water resistant and came out well.

Glenn and Emily on Easter in 2014. She loved her walks.

Glenn and Emily on Easter in 2014. She loved her walks.

ALAS! AS Mom would have said, “Nothing lasts forever.” The western cedar arch was recently seen moving in the wind. A check on it showed that it is worse than a year ago.  Glenn took in down the other day. Now Emily’s arch is gone…

Glenn wants it back and misses it after it has been there 18 years. I agree and couldn’t plant the climbing rose bush I got last spring on it. I’ve just ordered an exact copy of the western cedar arch. Some things have to be replaced and others we can leave out when removed. Now, it is even more meaningful to have the rose arch back in.

It will come in about 10 days and will be in Memory of Emily. The rose that I got is in Memory of Mom so that will look good. We have Mom’s clematis from behind her home that she had growing in the climbing rose there. The rose didn’t survive so that was why I got a new one. Now they’ll be growing together again.

There are other memories that we have of Emily in our gardens here. She loved smelling the flowers as I showed her how to do that without tasting them. He favorite places were where she could watch over ‘her kingdom’ and all the other fur kids and keep them in line with a ‘bark, bark’ if needed.

Emily would be right there by Dad at his favorite place under a large, red maple in the back. Sadly, we had to remove that tree due to dangerous large branches. There, too, we had to have a replacement tree so “Dad’s Tree” is now a Japanese red maple. Under that I planted the oriental lilies that he liked.

Emily’s Arch will be put up before her birthday in May. We hope to have that garden fixed up for a photo then. We dearly miss them all. These areas are next to the Memory Garden where Mom’s bench is. Memories give us a smile and sometimes a tear but we are fortunate that we have them.  There’s nothing like a garden to sit in and reflect on the love that we shared.