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A New Era

IMG_3203 (2)This will always be called, “Emily the corgi” blog, no matter how many corgis come into our lives. Emily taught me everything I know about corgis. She taught me the love, training, and care. With each rescue and corgi that came here Emily knew had to handle it. I watched her as to how other corgis played and she left them alone unless she thought they were going to fight. I followed her example as much as I could, and it worked well. I’ll miss her forever…

Our first rescue was in December 2017. He was a corgi he boy, age 6, and at the shelter in the South Jersey. We thought he was pretty good, so we brought him home and try it out. Charley really was unsuitable for us and Velvet. After few days it was apparent that he was aggressive. He had guarding issues and no training.

This was a week before Christmas and two weeks after we sent Corky and Ginny home. It was very upsetting. We missed Corky and Ginny even more then. We decided to wait for God to bring another corgi to us.

After the end of January, Meco came to stay with us. She is nine years old and the same age as Velvet. Meco is a purebred red and white corgi girl and pedigreed. She is well -mannered and sweet. Velvet and Meco became fast friends. Velvet let her sleep in her bed, play with her toys, and try to get used to a new home.

She’s a very good match for our home and were very happy to have her. We’ve been taking her to the vet to catch up on all the shots, etc. On Tuesday she got rabies shot and yesterday was very tired all day. Today she’s her sweet self. I’ll let you know how things go.

 

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Corky and Ginny Went Home

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Ginny and Corky Nov.29, 2017 sleeping in the living room.

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Our first corgis, Merrymont Impression-Corky and Merrymont Virginia’s Beauty-Ginny went home to heaven on November 30, 2017. They were Emily’s boy and girl. Growing up together and now going home together, they lived long lives. Corky was 16 years in August and Ginny would have been 16 this coming March 2018.

Corky’s father was a Best of Breed in Va. and Ginny’s father was a Canadian Champion. We got Corky first from Emily’s second litter and the following year, Ginny came. Later, in Nov., Emily came when the breeder became ill.

Ginny was to be Corky’s companion as he barked a lot when we were working in the gardens. She did stop him from doing that but they acted like brothers and sisters in the human world most of the time. She had the thickest and most beautiful coat. Ginny became Daddy’s Princess. She was the best one to groom, do her ears, and teeth until the last year.

Corky loved us both, too, but idolized his Daddy. He followed him around everywhere. When you have furkids this long, their lives entwine yours in everything. As Glenn said last night, he sees Corky and Ginny everywhere. Then not to have a pack but only one, is tough. It’s now ‘the empty nest’ feeling.

Velvet came in August 2014 just 3 weeks after Emily went home. Corky was going through grief still and he became friends with Velvet. They loved each other very much. At night, they’d both be in the living room with Glenn. If she left the room, he would wake up and look for her. Velvet liked to sniff his back and there would be these little tuffs sticking up along Corky’s back. He would come next to Velvet and plop his yard-long frame on her front feet or next to her.

Velvet and Corky looked out the door all the time together. He even let her eat from his bowl and didn’t growl. If that was Ginny, there would be a fight. Ginny and Corky didn’t fight much, though, just growl and bare their teeth if one got in the other’s face.

Last week, Ginny and Corky kissed each other on the muzzle. That was warm to see now after they’ve mellowed. Glenn wanted them to go home together as they were both about the same condition health wise. At first, I thought that this would be a double whammy. Then I thought that Glenn is right as we’d have to take the other soon after.

Ginny didn’t really walk much and Corky lost a lot of weight these last 6 weeks. Ginny started skipping food recently and Corky started getting weaker a few days before he went home. We knew it was time. It will take time

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Corky and Velvet-best friends!

for us to recover and Velvet to adjust.

Right now, it’s very, very sad but I know it will get better over time. I think Velvet fully thought that Corky was back home when we went out to eat on Nov. 30. She ran to the back of the house and looked for him. She’s still looking for Corky and not wanting to play with her toys much. Glenn put Corky’s cover from the living room on the sofa for Velvet to smell. She’s good with that.

We are praying for God to give her a best friend again. She’s a very good girl with a lovely temperament. I know Velvet will help mend the 2 holes in our heart because she mended mine when Emily went to heaven.

 

Corky Begins the Road Home

Emily’s son, Corky, is now 16 ¼ years old! He still walks around much and follows Daddy all over. Yet he’s showing signs of old age this Autumn. He’s been healthy for the most part, until recently when he had a skin infection, perhaps from an allergy to an outdoors thing. He got over this after about 6 weeks of bathing 1-2 times a week.

Our concern now is that for the past 6 weeks he’s been losing weight. The vet gave him Hills Urgent Care canned food which we must mix with other things or he won’t eat it. Corky now eats 3 times a day from a menu that I’ve made up with something different each meal. Most of the time he’ll eat most or all of it.

It isn’t solving the problem, though, and Corky continues to lose weight. He’s lost 5 lbs. in about 6 weeks. Another blood test now reveals that not only is he slightly anemic but that the enzymes are slightly high with one kidney.

The vet said we could do more tests, etc. but we’ve decided that it won’t add to his life appreciably. We just want him to be happy and he only wants to be home with us and Velvet. It’s a matter of time until God calls Corky home to Heaven. Then, he will be with his mother, Emily, running and playing like they used to.

Corky adored his mother and really missed her when she went to Heaven. I know that Velvet will miss Corky, too. We are not watching him waste away but will let Corky tell us when he’s ready to go home.

 

 

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Corky and Velvet-best friends!

 

Emily, It’s been a year now…

We still miss Emily as much as when she left us on August 27, 2014; we always will miss her as she was such a great part of our lives. I can’t relive those days and hours in my mind as it’s so very sad. Now it is remembering without the details to make it more bearable.

Yet, there are still times of tears and deep sorrow. Anniversaries are always very sad for my late parents, now for Emily, too. I miss them all so much and wish I could go back in time just for a moment. Looking at Emily’s pictures and videos is easier now as I just think of the moment they were taken and not that she is missing.

I will never “get over” her loss and will hold her in my heart always. Many people never get another dog after losing a dear one or they never get that breed again. That makes things much worse, I think. God gave us Velvet to help us heal and she has. She’s been here 11 months already and we can cope with Emily’s memories better due to her.

We have learned to thank God for his foresight and gifts in Velvet coming here to be with us now and forever. Emily was a most beautiful girl in every way; Velvet is also in her ways very beautiful, too.

When we all meet again in Heaven, we will then have much to tell each other.

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The Gift of Love

Today, April 25th, is our wedding anniversary of 23 years! (It’s also the birthday of my oldest daughter.) We will go out to dinner this weekend and enjoy ourselves…

Today, also, is Glenn’s Gift of Love to Emily-he put her arch up and concrete again at the bottom due to very strong crosswinds in that area. When the brickwork is completed, I will plant Mom’s rose and clematis on one side, and continue fixing the rose garden that I began the other day.

April is both a happy and sad month as Mom passed away April 8, 2011 and Emily’s last photo in the gardens was with Glenn and under the rose arch. We miss then greatly. Now, though, I can walk in that garden and think of them while enjoying God’s flowers. They are in heaven now so we are happy for that.

We are also thankful for 23 years of marriage and looking forward to our 25th! It’s easier now and better than many other times. Glenn continues to give many ‘gifts of love’ to us daily here in taking care of the home and gardens and furkids.

This year we are trying to catch-up and take it easy, too. Dad passed away in July 2007 and it took me 18 months to move on. Then we had construction to 2012, with Mom passing away in 2011. In Oct. 2012 I had a small stroke from all that stress and that took a while to recover. In the summer of 2013, Emily could no longer walk and we got her a cart by Nov. She also almost died from a blockage and a long bought of pneumonia in Feb 2013. Emily passed away in August 2014 and the remainder of the year was filled with grief.

One thing after another and the gardens have not fully been taken care of at times. That is being done this year as much as God will allow us to do. No construction is planned for this year. We plan to just be outside with the furkids, garden, and enjoy ourselves with as little stress as possible.

Emily’s birthday is in May just after Glenn’s. We are hoping for warmer weather and a warm celebration of both of their birthdays.

A Gift of Love given to us by God has increased and multiplied. We pray that it continues for more years to come! Happy Anniversary, Glenn!

Glenn installed Emily's new arch today.

Glenn installed Emily’s new arch today.

Emily’s Garden Arch

We are preparing “Emily’s Garden” Fragrances, Potpourris, Oils, and more Bath and Beauty items. They will be on my website and online store this year. The label looks like this:

The label has Emily walking in her cart and under the Rose arch.

The label has Emily walking in her cart and under the Rose arch.

Emily loved the gardens here and we think of her while walking and working out there. Glenn loved walking her in her cart around the rose and vegetable gardens each day. He took especially good care of her. Even in the snow, he would shovel all the pathways so she could still walk around. It was cute.

I have videos and still pictures of them. One of the photos was taken on Easter in 2014 and under the arch. Glenn loved that one so I have it enlarged and on a canvas photo with 3 others of Emily. I cropped the photo to make the label for Emily’s Garden products. The labels are oil and water resistant and came out well.

Glenn and Emily on Easter in 2014. She loved her walks.

Glenn and Emily on Easter in 2014. She loved her walks.

ALAS! AS Mom would have said, “Nothing lasts forever.” The western cedar arch was recently seen moving in the wind. A check on it showed that it is worse than a year ago.  Glenn took in down the other day. Now Emily’s arch is gone…

Glenn wants it back and misses it after it has been there 18 years. I agree and couldn’t plant the climbing rose bush I got last spring on it. I’ve just ordered an exact copy of the western cedar arch. Some things have to be replaced and others we can leave out when removed. Now, it is even more meaningful to have the rose arch back in.

It will come in about 10 days and will be in Memory of Emily. The rose that I got is in Memory of Mom so that will look good. We have Mom’s clematis from behind her home that she had growing in the climbing rose there. The rose didn’t survive so that was why I got a new one. Now they’ll be growing together again.

There are other memories that we have of Emily in our gardens here. She loved smelling the flowers as I showed her how to do that without tasting them. He favorite places were where she could watch over ‘her kingdom’ and all the other fur kids and keep them in line with a ‘bark, bark’ if needed.

Emily would be right there by Dad at his favorite place under a large, red maple in the back. Sadly, we had to remove that tree due to dangerous large branches. There, too, we had to have a replacement tree so “Dad’s Tree” is now a Japanese red maple. Under that I planted the oriental lilies that he liked.

Emily’s Arch will be put up before her birthday in May. We hope to have that garden fixed up for a photo then. We dearly miss them all. These areas are next to the Memory Garden where Mom’s bench is. Memories give us a smile and sometimes a tear but we are fortunate that we have them.  There’s nothing like a garden to sit in and reflect on the love that we shared.

My Thoughts are With Emily

Working through grief is tough. Most of the time now I can think of Emily and all the happy times that we shared. But there are times of sorrow and tears. It was last night and today that this hit me hard.
I realized that looking at the last photos near her passing and thinking of her then, are my worst moments. Tonight I looked over some of the nearly 13 years of photos and felt better. Emily was a very beautiful corgi girl and very photogenic. She would pose and stay in place. This was due to her show-dog, obedience training before she came to me.

I have many gorgeous photos and now will have two more canvas pictures made. I haven’t decided which as there are so many! We went to many places and had good times. Our last vacation together was to Williamsburg, VA in Dec. 2011. One night, I realized that this may be our last vacation. I cried the whole night.

I haven’t been on vacation since then as I took care of her and had my own health issues. Now, I think this coming year that I will go and begin my life with Velvet…

The birthday girl at Longwood Gardens. It was her favorite place.

The birthday girl at Longwood Gardens. It was her favorite place.

Emily's favorite spot here in the gardens. (This was the old pond before we added the cabin deck.) She liked to look over her 'kingdom' and watch Corky and Ginny.

Emily’s favorite spot here in the gardens. (This was the old pond before we added the cabin deck.)
She liked to look over her ‘kingdom’ and watch Corky and Ginny.